The Trouble With Bridges

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I am thrilled to have special guest Mary Katherine with us today.  I was introduced to her through a dear friend via instagram and we became insta friends.  She is sharing with us the difficulties that come with relationships.  If you have ever had to pick up the pieces after a failed relationship, you'll be sure to find hope and encouragement in today's post.




I have “a thing” with bridges.
A few years back, a Washington bridge collapsed on national television and cars–with actual people in them–dropped into the river like matchbox toys.
Driving over a bridge nowadays, I feel like a feral cat trapped in a metal box. All I can see are tiny cars: Falling, falling, falling.
A bridge is a thing of beauty. A trophy of modern engineering. But I don’t have to trust one–and I never will.
And that is my thing with bridges.
Then, not long ago, a bridge I was driving on collapsed.
No, not literally. Actually, it was a friendship that I valued. It failed, crumbled, and collapsed with a quickness. And as my little car was nose-diving for the river, I couldn’t help but wonder:
What just happened?
I loved this person. I really did. But the friendship was in rubbles and love wasn’t enough to fix it.
I’ve heard it said (and sung) that “love can build a bridge.” And perhaps that is true. But why, then, do so many marriages, friendships, and partnerships fall apart?
Because without a reliable foundation and infrastructure, relationships are destined for failure.
Love can most certainly build a bridge. But as it turns out, Love is a crappy engineer.
If you’ve ever seen or experienced a whirlwind romance, you know what Im talking about.
Built so quickly. So excitedly. But when it experiences actual weight–that’s when the implosion occurs. And by then it’s too late.
We are human. Wrecks happen. Sometimes, if we are lucky, a wreck can reveal the weakness before a collapse has occurred.
And that’s when we have two choices:
1) Grab a hammer, say a prayer, and get to work repairing the weaker parts.
2) Assess the damage. Say, “This has gotten bad enough,” and find another road.
Either way, it’s painful when things break. Both parties are left there, mending wounds and wondering how they never saw it coming.
So what do you do—when it’s you standing there, confused in the rubble?
Give it time. And when the dust finally settles…go find the point of failure. Study it. Take responsibility for your part in it. Forgive the other person’s part in it.
And the next time you find yourself building something great, be careful not to repeat the mistake.
Building new relationships can be hard. Scary, even. Especially if you’ve experienced the pain of previous failures.
But we all have our failed bridges. It’s how we learn from those failures that define us.
And today I’m beginning that process.


Mary Katherine is the founder of MomBabble.com. She resides in the Sunshine State with her husband (Ian) and son (Nugget). She's a southern mom with strong opinions and a messy home. Her writing can be seen on Huffington Post, Scary Mommy, Mamapedia, and more....but Mom Babble is her home.



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2 comments

  1. Time really is the best healer in these cases, in my opinion, and the acceptance that we can't control everyone's feelings about us.

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    1. Yes, sometimes we try to rush things, I know I am definitely the type of person that needs time to process feelings, and emotions and respond with grace instead of act out of hurt!

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